Mine and Mind

Hindu Weddings in India are known for its great pomp and show. The wedding ceremonies extend over a period of four to five days. These ceremonies are based on great Indian traditions and customs. In addition to this, the Indian weddings are considered as an important sacrament of the Hindu religion. Hindu weddings are one among sixteen cultural practices a devout Hindu has to go through. Hindu marriages are not only a union of two hearts but two families as well. For this holy union a large number of customs have to be followed. These customs are divided into three parts, pre-wedding, wedding and post-wedding ritual.

The Pre Wedding Rituals are beginning of wedding ceremony. The pre wedding rituals consists of engagement, tilak, sagai, sangeet and mehandi. The Engagement ceremony is marked by the exchange of rings by prospective brides and grooms. The next ceremony is Tilak ceremony, wherein the girl’s brother applies tilak (red mark) on the groom’s forehead and offers him gifts. Next is the Sagai ceremony wherein bride and groom sides exchange gifts. The next part of pre wedding rituals is Sangeet ceremony, in which women and girls of both the families sing and dance to enjoy these moments. The next and last part of the wedding rituals is Mehandi ceremony in which mehndi or henna is applied on bride’s hands, palms and feet in an artistic way. It is one of the important aspects of Hindu weddings in India.

On the main day of Wedding the wedding ceremony begin with Jaimala, the ceremony in which the bride and the groom exchange flower garlands in the presence of their friends and relatives. This ceremony is followed by Kanyadaan for which the bride and groom arrive to the mandap to perform this custom. This ritual is considered very significant because it is the ritual in which the bride’s father gives his daughter’s hand to the groom. This moment is sanctified with mantras chanted by priests. The next thing is Mangalpheras which is performed around the holy fire. The couple also take the seven vows called Saptapadi, and make promise to stand by each other through all thick and thins. This ceremony is followed by the groom putting sindoor or vermillion in the bride’s hair parting. Then the groom ties mangalsutra around the bride’s neck.

After completion of wedding ceremony the Post-Wedding Rituals starts. The post wedding rituals consist of vidaai and reception. The Vidaai ceremony is the event in which bride leaves her ancestral home to join grooms family. When the couple arrives at the groom’s house, the proud groom’s mother welcomes them with aarti. After completion of some other rituals a grand reception party is organised to introduce bride to the grooms family and society.

Muslim marriage as in other faiths is a sacred institution. It is a moral contract binding between a Muslim man and a Muslim woman. Muslim marriages are performed according to the laws of the Islamic Shariah. Islamic marriages are generally arranged marriages by the parents. The proposal for marriage is made by the girl’s parents to the guy and once with the acceptance from both the sides the ceremony of engagement is made which is further followed by the marriage. The Islamic marriage is solemnized by a priest who takes the consent of both the bride and the groom for the marriage. The bride and the groom’s consent is followed by signing of the marriage proposal by the bride, the groom and the witnesses. The Koran or the holy book is placed between them and they are made to see each other through a mirror. The Islamic marriage ceremony is celebrated with the distribution of dates and sweets and with a grand feast. In an Islamic marriage premarital intimacy is strictly not permitted. According to the religion of Islam a Muslim marriage is the foundation upon which an Islamic society is built.
Muslim marriage is characterized by offering of the dowry by a Muslim man to his spouse. The main purpose is to safeguard the economic status of the Muslim women in case of any unto do incidents. The dowry or the mahr can be paid before or after the marriage and with the failure of the payment of dowry the Muslim marriage becomes invalidated. The Muslim marriages insist on the husband supporting his spouse financially and therefore it is the duty of the husband to support and protect his wife. The Muslim marriage rules also insist that the husband should make sure that both his wife and children have access to the religious Islamic materials.
One major difference between Islam and other religion is the practice of polygamy, the Muslim men are allowed to marry up to four wives as long as he can support and protect them. Muslim women however are not allowed to marry more than one man. The religion of Islam does not permit homosexuality. It allows the marriage of a Muslim man to a Jewish or a Christian woman. Though the Islamic law permit’s the marriage of Christian or a Jewish woman to a Muslim male it does not permit them to have the inheritance of their spouse unless it is conferred by the Muslim man on their Jewish or Christian spouses.
Islamic religion lays down strict marriage regulations as marriage and family are the building blocks of Islamic society. The moral contract between the husband and wife in Islam is bound by certain rules and regulations. Islam clearly defines the role of a husband in a family as well as that of a wife’s duty. It is the healthy family life which would form the basis of healthy off springs. This further would lead to the growth of a strong Islamic society. The ultimate aim being the growth of the religion with staunch followers of Islam and Muslim marriage is a really a formatted institution.

Giving welcome

Rabbi at new synagogue speaks of converts to Judaism

BY SERGIO CARMONA.

JOURNAL STAFF WRITER

There’s a new rabbi in town.
Rabbi Celso Cukierkorn, who moved to Miami-Dade County in May and has started Adat Achim Synagogue in Sunny Isles, knows a great deal about those who convert to Judaism. Since his rabbinic career started more than a decade ago, Cukierkorn, 37, has converted many of those people himself – in Europe, South America and China. Welcoming new people as Jews is important to him.
“Today, we have as many Jews in the world as there were the day the Americans liberated the concentration camps,” he said. “Next generation, we will have negative growth, and we’re going to have less Jews in the world. Somebody has got to do something about it. I believe that as a leader of Jewish people, we should put them on the red carpet; we should welcome those people who are legitimately interested in becoming Jewish. It must be offered
to them.”
Cukierkorn was born in Brazil and comes from a rabbinical family that goes back 700 years. He is a member of the rabbinical cabinet of United Jewish Appeal. His conversion process involves an online course for people who are willing to be Jewish and can convert anyone from any part of the world through online study and a final exam.
“This course gives people the tools to empower themselves to establish Jewish identity in a way that they can work on their own time, because today’s environment and situation regarding our : mobility, regarding our schedule and other priorities we have in our lives, sometimes would not allow many people to be in a regular conversion to
Judaism course,” he said.
Cukierkorn. currently has 30-40 students from South Florida. One of those students, Tatiana Suarez, who resides in Miami-Dade County, is. grateful for the course’s flexibility and the learning opportunity provided.
“Rabbi Cukierkorn has a very nice method about learning Judaism;” said Suarez. “He’s critical. He can get deeper. If you don’t have time, he gives flexibility to his students. The” rabbi gives you everything you need to know and he guides you very well through the course.”
Cukierkorn enjoys working with students who posses the maturity to learn to become a Jew.
“I think that the very beauty of people coming
into Judaism is they have an adult mind and that they’re going to ‘experience things for the first time already with a mature mind,” he, said.
Cukierkorn is not only impressed with his students’ maturity, but impressed with their dedication, as well.
“Most of the people I work with, they could choose any religion, and for them becoming Jewish and joining the greater Jewish family is the most important thing in their life,” he said. ‘as a congregational rabbi, I have never seen another group ‘that opens so much enthusiasm in Judaism than people converting; and usually they make wonderful Jews.”
Cukierkorn has also provided close guidance to his students. One is Larry Hudson, a former student who became a
Jew in 2002.
“He’s provided close guidance to our family here in Florida,” Hudson said. “He is very astute in the field of Judaism, and he’s provided guidance to individuals like ourselves in converting to Judaism.”
Cukierkorn is proud to have an impact on his students’ lives.
“From all of my rabbinic duties, converting people gives me the greatest pleasure,” he said. “I have converted people from New Zealand to Argentina, and having a small part in their lives is the greatest reward I have in my
rabbinic duties.”
Cukierkorn’s guidelines, expectations and requirements. for his course are available at http://www.convertingtojudaism.com. He can be reached at 305-510-8111.
Origininally featured in the L’Chaim section of The Jewish Journal July 10, 2007

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